I’ve been dashing around all over the Diocese recently, so I haven’t had a chance to upload the slides from some of my talks! Please find them below:
When I run training sessions, I often refer people to this blog to get the slides I used – these are for the “Getting Started in Children’s Ministry” training held on 15th March 2017 at St Andrew’s in Biggleswade. Click on the link at the bottom to download.
Opportunities for mission and ministry
Creating a culture of welcome
A video clip from Rev on how NOT to manage change
Answers from lots of clergy and children’s workers on “what do you do when people complain about children making noise in the service?”
A resource list
Children’s corners (Pray and Play areas)
Those of you who have been to any of my workshops or training sessions might have heard me talk about “imaginative spiritual play” and how to facilitate it. Yesterday, Patrick, aged 5, gave me a good example.
His mum was leading one of the Sunday School groups, so he arrived early. As the space was set up, he started playing – first, he arranged the electric candles on the altar.
What I did: got more candles when he asked, helped him come up with an idea on how to arrange them when he was frustrated that there weren’t enough to go all the way around.
Then he asked me if I had any red paper. He balled up the red paper and stuck it in the chalice to be wine.
He also went to the toy corner and got the wave and the rainbow toys and set them on the altar.
What I did: Asked him about his setup, using open-ended questions, e.g., “would you like to tell me about what you’ve made?” rather than “is that rainbow from the Noah story?”
When I asked him about his setup, he explained that the water and the rainbow were, in fact, from the Noah story, and asked me if I’d heard this story.
What I did: Instead of saying, “yes, I know that story,” I asked him to tell it to me.
Using the rainbow and the water wave, he briefly recapped the Noah story, and then asked if we could take out the plastic animals from the cupboard to play with them. As the service was about to start, so we had to go into the main worship area, I said no, but reminded him there was a Noah’s Ark toy in the church’s Pray and Play area if he wanted to go and play with that during the start of the service, before Sunday School began.
What made this work:
Last Saturday, we had a wonderful day on Ministry With Under-5s. As part of it, I did a whistle-stop tour through the idea of Pray and Play corners – my slides are below, if anyone would like to share the presentation or be reminded of what was covered.
Some other takeaways from the day include:
Ellie Wilson did our keynote address. While she has unfortunately left her post in the Diocese of Leeds, her legacy includes support of “1277: Make Them Count” and also the Toddler Group Research Project, which will be published soon – check back here for more!
Vicki Howie, who did a wonderful workshop on Storytelling with under-5s, recently did a Childrenswork article on a similar topic, which you can find here.
Jenny Paddison introduced us to Starting Rite, which is a 5-week programme of spiritual nurture for carers and babies together, based on the type of course run by Sure Start centres. You can learn more here.
Carolynn Pritchard led a workshop on liturgical worship with children – many of her ideas can be found on the Spiritual Child Network page. (There’s also a Facebook group of 700+ members, which I’ve found invaluable on many occasions, for ideas and inspiration.)
Victoria Beech and Becky May did a workshop on music and multi-sensory worship – they both do wonderful Faith at Home work as well. Victoria runs GodVenture, and Becky and her husband Adam are the Treasure Box People.
Any other resources you have for Under-5s are more than welcome – please do leave a comment.
PDF of Pray and Play Corners presentation: pray-and-play-corners
Tonight I have the privilege of speaking with some Lay Readers on the topic of Welcoming Children and Families.
I’ve put together a PowerPoint, which I thought I’d share with all of you.
The images of prayer spaces without captions are taken from this blog – you can find more details about them in older posts; just click on the “Pray and Play” tag at the bottom of this post to get all the related ones.
Welcoming Families (PowerPoint – 15 MB, download it on a proper computer over wireless not data!) Please also note – the big black rectangle on the 10th slide is a video – hover over it to see the “PLAY” command appear.
Another wonderful Pray and Play corner, from St. Andrew’s, Bedford. Here’s what Children and Young People’s Activities Coordinator Becky has to say about it:
“There are some of the Lent calendars and some other worksheets/colouring and plain paper for the children to let their imaginations flow. Plus there are some stickers (they always love having stickers so I try to put some out every now and then, I have used some I got from The Word bookshop but the current ones are from Baker Ross with the words of faith).
“The activity bags are Bible story bags, like story bags you get in schools but each is Bible story. They contain a book of the story, some toys that can be used to act out the story and some colouring/worksheets relating to the story as well as a pencil case with colours, etc. I think the current stories in the bags are Jonah and the whale, that has a small plastic doll/figure, a whale toy and I think a boat, there is Moses in the bullrushes, with a small baby doll and basket, Daniel and the lion’s den, with a small doll/figure and small toy lions, David and Goliath, with a large figure (actually one of my sons old wrestling figures but with a tunic on!) and a small figure with a sling shot (that is actually one of the knee pads the wrestling figure used to wear!). I try to update them every now and then with different stories.
“I am also working on making I-spy treasure sensory bag toys with Bible themes (Google search I-spy treasure bags and look on images and you get the idea), these are Autism fidget toys but I think will work well with others too. I currently have collected everything I need to make Holy Week themed ones and one of the lovely ladies at our church is going to sew them for me. I will then work on other Bible stories/Christian symbols/Christmas ones for the rest of the year.”
A few more images of great children’s areas have come through. If you’d like me to feature yours, email pictures or links to email@example.com
This one shows an area focused on providing different activities for children to do at different times in the service. This type of idea might need an adult helper, or clear notes for parents. This corner supports the “gathering” time at the start of the service – many different items made of different pieces that can be put together.
There are lots of seasonal ideas for children’s areas. This one is set up for Advent and Christmas (the gathering area above can be seen just at the right):
While many children’s areas are specifically designed for Under-5s, there are ways of providing opportunities for older children as well. Here are a few. For the first activity, a book of the story is available for children who don’t know the story:
Many churches have children’s corners. It’s hard for little ones to sit still for the whole of a 1-hour service, or to come back in from a Sunday School session where they were allowed to move and play, and suddenly be expected to sit quietly in a pew.
This can mean children get restless and fussy, and parents end up taking them out. Parents feel embarrassed, both parents and children miss out on the service, and worship can get disrupted by a large-scale tantrum. Not good. By providing a children’s corner, where parents can take their children at the first sign of restlessness, this escalation can be largely prevented. (Though kids will sometimes kick off regardless – it helps if it’s a vicar or churchwarden’s kid, so other parents feel more relaxed about their own.)
It’s easy to make the children’s corner just an ordinary secular playspace, but with a slight change in mindset, this can actually be turned into an opportunity for developing children’s spirituality.
Here’s one I made earlier … the “Pray and Play” space at St. George’s Church, Campden Hill, London. Each basket is themed. We have Baptism, Christmas, and Easter, as well as a Noah’s Ark with animals, a book corner, and a small toy altar with liturgical items and a toy church.
The focus is both on the Christian STORY and on Christian WORSHIP.
You can see how the colour of the cloth on the altar shows the liturgical year (except for when we lost our cloths and had all blue for a while while we replaced them!), and how extra items are sometimes added at festivals.
There’s a poster of the Good Shepherd on the wall, and the altar is visible from the Pray and Play area, so children and their adults can still feel connected to the worship.
The treasure boxes contain items similar to the Spiritual Child Network’s liturgy boxes.
This one was used as a “Meditation Tent” in a Holiday Club in Nottinghamshire, and therefore can be more of a roped-off space than one used during corporate worship. This allows for fantastic creativity in terms of lighting and the overall atmosphere of the space. Note the sign, which reads, “slip off your shoes and lay down your phone, for you are entering sacred ground.” This one would work really well for older children and teens.
You can see more of the Meditation Tent here.
The rug here really reflects a lot of Biblical landscapes (they’re from IKEA). Note the pillow on top of the purple cushions – it has a heart and hands, which is great for cuddling, and which echoes the imagery of God used in the Beulah Land storytelling sets. The table and chairs provide space for creative work – make sure you provide materials allowing for open-ended creation and not just colouring sheets. The coat hanger features Bible-based story sacks, with storybooks and toys connected to that story. Also note the vicar doll! The child is playing with a wooden ark, just visible to the right of her.
This was a special installation for Pentecost. Its creator says, “in MY head the doll’s house was meant to be the upper room in this case, but with children it could become anyyhing in their heads! It’s also been house-with-stable for Christmas, wedding feast house for water into wine, anyone’s house when we talked about hospitality and sharing things in common…quite versatile!”
The image below shows how baskets can be used to encourage play based around worship as well as stories. The coloured ribbons can be changed according to the season of the year. For more ideas on children’s area, see the Spiritual Child Network’s page on them. (Wooden egg cups make very good play chalices, by the way!)
I’m getting lots of pictures sent through with many more ideas, so keep checking back for more!
In the meantime, if you’re thinking of setting up a Pray and Play area in your church, and you’d like some help – either in what to include or how to do it without scaring your congregation and starting World War III, do get in touch via firstname.lastname@example.org or on our Facebook page!